They say a drunken heart speaks a sober mind, and I believe that. Of course, there’s a spectrum of intoxication and there are multiple variables that come into play here. However, I strongly believe that alcohol can be seen through a double lens: being the effects it has on us emotionally and physically, and I am here to address my opinion of how alcohol interacts with the former.
But before I proceed any further, I need to clarify that I am not here in any form or fashion to justify drunken behaviour. Moreover, I am fully aware of the fact that you this platform and the voices it carries, aim to reach an audience that it may influence, so I have to clarify that I recognise that alcohol can and does foster unhealthy relationships and unhealthy behaviours (depending on how it’s consumed), but I’m sure that I’m probably preaching to the choir here. So I’ll stop here.
So where were we? … Ah, yes! Drunken declarations!
Based off my own personal experiences, I don’t believe in ‘blaming it on the a-aaaa-alcohol’!
Well, not all of it anyway.
Because in the times that I have been intoxicated and have sent the most cringe worthy messages/voicemails ( yes, I leave voicemails, hahahaha) to friends and boys (lol) what I am communicating isn’t baseless.
And in the past, I have woken up the next day and completely failed to address the matters discussed because I have been too proud to be vulnerable.
Am I preaching to the choir again? 🙂
Alcohol just leads to lower inhibitions and a lack of care. It’s not that what is happening isn’t based off the ‘real you’ or your ‘real emotions’. No way! It is you and what you are saying is coming from somewhere. You just don’t give a flying fuck #pleaseexcusemyfrancais
Moreover, if you were really having the greatest time with your group of friends, on a night out, after sinking 4 beers and 3 tequila shots, why would you text Samantha or Nicholas? Telling them how badly you want to see them/how much you miss them/in some cases even send them some very descriptive messages of what you would like them to do to you? Hahaha… #definitelypreachingtothechoirhere
We are so used to downplaying our emotions out of fear. The fear of vulnerability, the fear of rejection, the fear of being dubbed as ‘crazy’ and even the fear of being dubbed as too emotional.
But it’s a shame.
It’s a shame because we are getting to the point where we are the ones dismissing our own emotions, even before the person we have these emotions for has an opportunity to respond accordingly! It’s actually ridiculous and really heartbreaking.
So I say, the next time you send a drunken declaration, wait.
Wait for the reply.
Then open said reply.
If said reply states the following ‘were you drunk?’. Resist all the urges to say yes and go with the flow or be honest, say yes, but address what was said.
So let’s get emotional people!
‘The best and most emotional things in the world, cannot be seen or even touched’